tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post7555808973886692497..comments2024-03-24T00:23:34.208-07:00Comments on in the name of LOVE: lonely hearts club...Biancahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08148305912197192593noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-53191388882381022352010-02-24T19:19:42.110-08:002010-02-24T19:19:42.110-08:00I'm single now and I have really learned to lo...I'm single now and I have really learned to love my 2nd chance at a season of singleness. 3 yrs ago my best friend/fiancee ended our relationship. It did not end well, was not easy, and took a long time to come to terms with. I haven't wanted to date since then. I think mostly fear of getting so close to someone and having another relationship end up being that painful. But that is slowly changing.<br /><br />In these last 3yrs, God has shown me so much! Its been wonderful to have the freedom of singleness to learn to be dependent on Him and learn to let Him meet my emotional needs rather than looking to another person for that. Even though my last failed relationship was totally painful, I see now that the ending of it was the best thing that could have happened. I was so young and totally not ready for marriage, but through the pain God has been able to grow me spiritually and emotionally in a really big way. I know this season will not last forever, but I am certainly enjoying it while I can. <br /><br />I love being single for the amount of freedom I have. Its no big deal for me to pack a bag and fly out 2 days later to see a friend on the other side of the country, work weird hours, and travel for work is fun because I can just pick up and go and not worry about needing to get home. <br /><br />One thing I hate about being single is that a lot of my friends are now married and some have little ones. I'm really am happy for them, but I totally feel like the odd ball in a room full of married couples! It has led to some rather comic situations at times.Lain Eubankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10377721213094880270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-84524524467828272172010-02-23T12:50:11.049-08:002010-02-23T12:50:11.049-08:00Thanks Bianca.
I appreciate your prayers, and I&#...Thanks Bianca.<br /><br />I appreciate your prayers, and I'm feeling much better.:)Raenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-10089799569103527062010-02-23T12:05:06.986-08:002010-02-23T12:05:06.986-08:00I think I'm a little late here but I will answ...I think I'm a little late here but I will answer anyway. I'm going on 2 years of marriage in May and I miss a few things. I sometimes miss my alone time. I loved living alone when I was single. Yes, I used to get lonely once in a while but I really did love my alone time away from friends and family. There are also sometimes when I miss having my own money and money for that matter. I always thought that when I got married I would have more money. I was wrong but I'm happy (not content but happy) and completely trusting in the Lord to provide now. Which is something that I never thought I could do before because I always had money. It's amazing to see the different ways the Lord provides for us. (My husband has been out of work for a year now) We sit back and laugh at how AWESOME God is and we can't believe the weird situations and people He uses to provide for us. <br /><br />Oh and one last thing.....it is harder to be married than it was to be single. At least it is for me. I actually have to die to self now. I never had to do that when I was single.=)Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07770844681674013693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-34316626689104507892010-02-23T11:56:57.353-08:002010-02-23T11:56:57.353-08:00this is so great. probably because I can relate in...this is so great. probably because I can relate in every way.<br /><br />Single? yes. <br /><br />And I know exactly where you're coming from about watching You've got mail with Ben & Jerry. Except I didn't date *Satan {haha - } but I still remember what it was like being in a place of loneliness. <br /><br />But i came to a place of being content and satisfied (after many nights with Ben, Jerry & My Bible) <br />anyway, all that to say I can relate. <br /><br />What do I like about being single?<br /><br />I love the time devoted to learning who God wants me to be...of course I'll always be learning, but it's an undivided attention as I'm single.<br /><br />What I DON"T like about being single: <br />Every time I come home from a trip or from the grocery store,As I carry {and sometimes drop} my {extremely heavy} bags or suitcases into the house, without fail I think, "Now would be a good time to be married"jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17709325246652909297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-19626091295234502692010-02-23T07:23:48.550-08:002010-02-23T07:23:48.550-08:00@Rae: I'm praying for you! And everyone else o...@Rae: I'm praying for you! And everyone else on here :)Biancahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08148305912197192593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-17924206888219821842010-02-21T11:13:54.133-08:002010-02-21T11:13:54.133-08:00I really needed to read this post today. There are...I really needed to read this post today. There are great things about being single, and great things about being married.<br /><br />I'm turning 37 in a few months, and I've never been married, and I don't have any kids. I know that 37 isn't old, but I'm tired of doing things alone or with my girlfriends. I know that there are things that I'm trying to learn about myself in this season, and I know how much God loves me and knows the desires of my heart.<br /><br />I have a great family and friends, job, and my health. I try to focus on the blessings that I have, but there are still times when I'm lonely. It makes me sad at times, and then I laugh at myself for having a "moment" but I guess my deep dark fear is that I'm always going to be by myself.<br /><br />I have to admit that I hate when people say that they don't understand why I'm single. Me too. Most of my friends are married, and I understand that isn't all rainbows either, trust me,but I think that most people don't want to go through this life alone. Plus, I would love to have a family. I don't think that I have to give birth to a baby to be a mom, but I don't want to do it by myself. Dads are so important, and wouldn't want to do it by myself.<br /><br />Anyway, thanks for letting me get that out. Love your blog.Raenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-23350689281680095832010-02-18T15:44:10.201-08:002010-02-18T15:44:10.201-08:00Let's see if i can top everyone - i'm 30 a...Let's see if i can top everyone - i'm 30 and have been single for 30 years. :) top that! <br /><br />Hate: not knowing. i don't mind the idea of never getting married, but i don't want to WANT marriage if it's never going to happen. i hate that i have a desire for a relationship, but these days, not much hope of having one.<br /><br />Love: freedom to do what i want, spend my money how i want, decorate how i want; i get to spoil my niece and nephews all i want; i got a dog without having to consult anyone; i take trips with friends a lot and do really girly things; i get to watch unlimited chick flicks without having to worry about someone not liking them; i don't have to share a bathroomAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06754991450267332907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-5569392890606604472010-02-18T09:29:58.466-08:002010-02-18T09:29:58.466-08:00I've been single my whole life, waiting for th...I've been single my whole life, waiting for the one God will bring me to. <br />The thing I love about being single is basically having my own agenda. <br />The things that I hate about being single is having those lonely nights reading a book or watching a movie or eating dinner by myself. and one thing I can't stand about being single is when there is someone you are attracted to, not only because of physical features but because of his spiritual features him being a man of God, praying for 2 years asking God if it's him and he is also a friend you've known for years and you hang out with the same group of friends and you can't say anything but is scared that if its not him that my time is wasted on wondering.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-40681310293679473942010-02-17T16:27:58.151-08:002010-02-17T16:27:58.151-08:00Yay back from holidays and already hooked back int...Yay back from holidays and already hooked back into your blog!<br /><br />Likes about being single (lets start with the positive): being able to do what i want when, being free to be there for my friends 24/7, being able to book a holiday and travel on a whim, being able to serve the lord first and foremost all the time, being able to watch the tv i want to watch all the time (he he so i'm still a little selfish about being single)<br /><br />Disklikes: the looks that married friends give you when you go to a wedding or other event and you are one of the only singles there, the CONSTANT comments from some family members about not being in a relationship (remember gran it's about quality not quantity...) the lack of romance, stupid valentines day (yep i'm a total hater!) watching movies at the cinema on your own.... <br /><br />hmmm i think i need some serious therapy on this....Sarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16138573682325247824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-2392135963262981112010-02-16T10:30:08.095-08:002010-02-16T10:30:08.095-08:00Thanks a lot for your comments, I have been readin...Thanks a lot for your comments, I have been reading this blogs all day long and your comments and support ladies blow me away,, I felt love throug you ladies.. Thanks.. I think i run out of tears now.. thanks.. loveless AnonymousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-63870254793025166782010-02-16T07:55:21.653-08:002010-02-16T07:55:21.653-08:00The responses to @Anonymous have been phenominal. ...The responses to @Anonymous have been phenominal. I'm so touched and blown away. <br /><br />Words are all I have. So I use them carefully. Please know you have been on my mind and in my prayers since reading your comment yesterday. <br /><br />To all who replied to the questions, you guys rock! The feedback has been SO enlightening. Thanks for the candor and brutal honesty.Biancahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08148305912197192593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-77693060887316898442010-02-15T19:26:10.162-08:002010-02-15T19:26:10.162-08:00anonymous...my heart breaks for you because it rec...anonymous...my heart breaks for you because it recognizes the familiar feelings and dangerous longings behind your words. i too believed marriage was about me being happy, when God has designed marriage to make you HOLY. big difference. i am praying for you too, because i have seen him restore my marriage. we are still in the middle of the mess, but he is far too powerful and his ways are beyond our own. please please seek godly counsel. do not let satan win this battle to destroy your marriage.Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03212369483568556070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-42163252935385333342010-02-15T18:15:53.992-08:002010-02-15T18:15:53.992-08:00Divorced for 4.5 years, mother of two ... and I am...Divorced for 4.5 years, mother of two ... and I am 99% sure that I will never be married again. I do long for a man that will mow my yard, shovel my snow, drop me off at the door when its pouring down rain ... but I'm completely unwilling to do his laundry, cook for him, pick up after him, and give up control of my house in return. <br /><br />Mostly though, I have never known marriage that wasn't arguments, distrust, anger, and resentment and now that I'm so completely blissfully happy with my kiddos (excepting that I have to shovel my own snow, mind you), I don't know why in the world I would ever invite that sort of strife into my life.<br /><br />And happily married people ... I'm not sure I'll believe you if you tell me that marriage isn't those things. Even in the happiest of marriages, you have those things and the fact of the matter is ... I DON'T HAVE THEM NOW!<br /><br />To be free of my marriage (mind you, it wasn't my choice to leave and it was a long, hard road to recover) was pure, blissful freedom and I will never go back.<br /><br />To do believe in the sanctity of marriage, I haven't been intimate in all those years (another thing that I miss), and I always encourage people to stick it out and fight for their marriages. I'm not against marriage ... it just isn't for me. <br /><br />Love the question, Bianca.Name Nazihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04797414689296162366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-13940877279983652922010-02-15T17:59:37.378-08:002010-02-15T17:59:37.378-08:00I miss shopping and buying things for myself. As a...I miss shopping and buying things for myself. As a mom and wife, sometimes I feel like I am shabby and not so chic. So although it is kind of shallow, I miss being able to buy new outfits and getting my hair done...because as it is now my kids dress waaaaaaaay better than I do. I wouldn't change it for anything at all though, but I do miss not feeling guilty for buying a new shirt. :)The Montgomeryshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03688175492055755451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-81540683687472813512010-02-15T17:47:52.503-08:002010-02-15T17:47:52.503-08:00My biggest hurdle of my singleness is my married f...My biggest hurdle of my singleness is my married friends’ un-contentment w/my singleness! I feel as if I have to comfort them of my marital status & remind them of what it means to “wait on the Lord”<br /><br />cynAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-79424232214067641232010-02-15T17:12:32.500-08:002010-02-15T17:12:32.500-08:00I have been married for almost 3 years and I love ...I have been married for almost 3 years and I love every part of it and there is nothing about singleness that I miss!! My hubby and I do everything together and my family call us crazy but we still want more time together, its wonderful!! My grandparents who have been married so long are the same way, they love spending every moment together as well!! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-54862693969949290752010-02-15T16:53:10.357-08:002010-02-15T16:53:10.357-08:00Hey B,
No, no my friend, see you THOUGHT you were ...Hey B,<br />No, no my friend, see you THOUGHT you were the President when really you were MY VP! I have not had a relationship in 7 years and prior to that, it was 10 or 11 yrs!! Soooo, as you can see, I am the CEO of the Lonely Hearts Club! But I find it hard to believe with all of the close girlfriends you have that you would EVER do that much alone and no email is hard to believe. <br /><br />What do I enjoy about being single? SLEEPING IN! Letting my dog sleep on the bed with me. Having my girly pink bathroom and a kitchen with pink knives, cups, cutting board, toaster, everything PINK! Going out to eat when and where I want and cooking what and when I want. Buying what I want and then eating PBJ if I need to until next pay day. Being able to get up and go ANYWHERE I want! From mission trips to Bible studies, to women's retreats! I only have to seek my husband Jesus who confirms it and them I'm off and running! When the Lord made a way to give me the desire of my heart (going to Israel), I didn't have to consult with ANYONE! I just did it. The morning I was in the shower getting ready to go to the airport, the Lord spoke to me and said, "see, if you were married to so and so he would have told you "we can't afford to go to Israel right now" because he spent his money on an HD or plasma TV and you wouldn't be going to Israel right now. But I am your husband and I am giving you the desire of your heart." I loved that and thanked Him for my singleness.<br /><br />What do I hate about being single? My love language is physical touch! I miss a hug most of all, holding hands, an arm around me, a kiss. I miss being desireable to a man. Things that show when a man loves you i.e touch, looks, showing and saying they love you. Serving in ministry ALONE. Traveling ALONE. Not being a Mom or a wife. And most of all, hearing from married people "stop thinking about it, when you least expect it, it will come." I'm 43 years old, how much longer?!?! And people telling me how old Sarah was when she conceived!His Jewelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11970543057939745477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-17780179783011266642010-02-15T16:36:52.196-08:002010-02-15T16:36:52.196-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-249941796113408202010-02-15T14:40:44.642-08:002010-02-15T14:40:44.642-08:00Funny enough, I am the president of the Canadian c...Funny enough, I am the president of the Canadian chapter of the club. Have been for 28 years. Almost 29. Haha.<br /><br />Sometimes I am ok with it. Sometimes it's horrible!<br /><br />Ok with it: Like most said, the freedom. Going out whenever I like, my activities and classes, etc. <br /><br />Horrible: Feeling lonely. Being the only single person out of all my friends. The uncertainty and doubt that it will ever happen. Struggling to find someone to read a scene or an audition with (because when/if I get a boyfriend, he will be my automatic reader. :) )<br /><br />But I will differentiate, I am lonely, but not alone. He is always there. But like Kelly said, I do long for the tangible person. <br /><br />Praying. :Druthiehttp://www.ruthieounaegbu.com/aaotnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-47637996767639344482010-02-15T14:33:32.245-08:002010-02-15T14:33:32.245-08:00I'm single and I LOVE being able to take off a...I'm single and I LOVE being able to take off any time I want...or change my house up any time I want...or watch chick flicks anytime I want.<br /><br />BUT, I really crave and miss out on intimacy, connectedness, and romance, too. : )the BLAH BLAH BLAHgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18080257870764974777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-41602614739593616802010-02-15T14:31:29.031-08:002010-02-15T14:31:29.031-08:00Honestly I can say that I miss NOTHING about being...Honestly I can say that I miss NOTHING about being single. I wouldn't trade being married for the world :)JACKY FIGUEROAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06468355218464530072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-41980627864579579802010-02-15T14:01:42.457-08:002010-02-15T14:01:42.457-08:00Wow, this is totally like group therapy. My strugg...Wow, this is totally like group therapy. My struggle is that I truly love being single and all the "me" time! I have been single for three years now and only feel the pressure to date because I want children and I am in my thirties so time is running out ! I love my runs at the beach alone, going to the movies alone and reading a good book at a coffee shop all alone. But still pray that I will find a good man who will hopefully become my husband and appreciates an independent woman!!Marissa Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-46588183717204728082010-02-15T13:56:43.236-08:002010-02-15T13:56:43.236-08:00I love not having to take someone with me everywhe...I love not having to take someone with me everywhere. I love going and just sitting all by myself. Maybe it's because that's what I've come to do out of being single, but it's nice. <br />I hate watching couples all around me having fun. I hate spending friday nights and weekends in my room. I hate when I don't want to be happy for my friends who are not single. <br /><br />But I remind myself, I will wait on the Lord. His timing is definitely not mine. I learned the hard way. = )Tina Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13968858211600912341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-35895448526981404352010-02-15T13:45:03.653-08:002010-02-15T13:45:03.653-08:00I'm married and I think the one thing I miss a...I'm married and I think the one thing I miss about being single is hanging out with my friends on holidays.Being able to do what I want and shop anytime I want. But the Lord has me married with children and I have learned that I am with my friend every holiday!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7628345867981438635.post-24282956202074186112010-02-15T12:58:28.785-08:002010-02-15T12:58:28.785-08:00seems like the standard answer so far but I agree....seems like the standard answer so far but I agree. What I miss most about being single is not having to compromise. Whatever I want whenever I want it. Is that a desire to be totally selfish all the time? I think so... =) <br /><br />Marriage is really great and hard. Singleness is also really great and hard. Don't forget that.Viviannoreply@blogger.com